Do you ever find yourself considering doing something you normally would not simply because you are bored?
I find it a sad statement of our current human condition that we cannot simply exist, in silence, without motion for any given period of time: we must constantly be entertained. I was once told that sometimes doing nothing is the best plan and I believe it. We seem to be taken with the idea that we have a right to things that truly are not needed to survive but rather distractions we believe will make us happy.
Nowhere is it written that all of us are entitled to happiness, every minute of every day, every day but if a human being cannot tolerate being alone with himself how is it anyone else is expected to suffer their company?
What is boredom? Is it not natural to experience under stimulation now and then? Why do we venture to find sexual fulfillment from boredom instead of choosing any other hobby? Does the ease at which we believe we can get sexual fulfillment, virtually, not seem the easy route to go? And on the rare occasion we do get what we wanted, nothing stops us from wanting more – so it wasn’t what we needed instead just easier to do than sitting down and deconstructing the larger issues.
Does anyone else get the impression that some people have updated their Facebook, they have chatted to everyone in their list, gone through their emails, surfed all their favourite sites, all their text buddies are in bed, so now they are bored: so why not look for sex of any kind?!
I have certainly met a few wives and husbands that swing to ‘spice things up’ and under normal conditions swinging would have never been an option for them, but they have convinced themselves that everyone is doing it, they consider themselves adventurous, and certainly it will bring back some fire in the bedroom. These are usually couples with issues they have not addressed but instead chose to pursue sex as a cure to their marital doldrums, midlife crisis of self-value, or simply ‘why not try it, there was nothing else to do’
The number of men who are more open to receiving head from another man has tripled in my sexual life, though they consider themselves straight, they would rather have an anonymous blow job than nothing: and most of them do not consider it sex.
Are we not taking more risks sexually out of boredom or the idea we believe this is what we want to fix how we feel? I keep running into couples and single men/women who are ‘bored’ regardless of their marital status: as though someone told them they had a right to a threesome, anal, or other sexual activity. Phone sex has come back with a vengeance because now we can all slip away with our own private phones; people are seeking out sexting partners – why? Because we have this phone in our hand 24/7 with all this access, why not! Sex would appear to be so easily attainable.
I stay clear of anyone that is unable to accept the natural ebbs and flows of life let alone sexual ones. Most importantly, for myself, I am not here to entertain a man simply because he is bored and could not find anything better to do with his time because I have a few things around here that could use some working on if he is truly that stuck.
I am not someone’s hobby or play thing, read a book, get off the computer and take a fucking walk or something – there is more out there than just sexual stimulation and the more variety you have in your the more attractive you are to others and to yourself.