Q: My husband is also my slave and recently he has communicated an interest in Queening but I am a larger woman and not too sure how to go about this. Help?
A: Actually the cool thing is, a lot of men love the size factor in just this scenario! If you do not mind I am first going to explain what Queening is to people who might not be aware: it is face sitting. When a woman takes her place over/above another person’s face and allows greater access for oral pleasure or used with forced oral.
Okay the whole thing is rather hot hot hot, I mean just the power exchange of this position let alone the pleasure aspect, so I can understand why your slave would truly desire to serve you like this but your question is how to go about it for the larger sized woman; very doable!
Here are some of my ideas:
- You can modify your own chair. Now I would choose a nice wood chair that compliments my taste and remove the seat, making sure there are not splinters or nails of course. The only impediment to this however is the distance you would have between your body and his face. However equally as easy is propping up his head comfortably to achieve the correct height with pillows but make sure to support some of his back as well and maybe even his hips. As someone who entertains in her home I choose to use a chair that I can remove/replace the seat and no one has a clue what they are sitting on, so there is no need to hide the furniture. This is a comfortable option that allows for longer service time. You could cut the legs down of the chair as well I guess but less likely to be easy explaining that to people who might sit on it.
- This comfortable little bench is so much fun! Sure you would think as a larger woman that putting yourself down on two huge elastic bands might be problematic but it’s not. If you or your slave is handy, this can be made at home as well. The great thing about this is you can use a little bounce in bungy to move yourself away from his face. This is lower than a chair obviously so it is also a pleasure to use over the cock – gives him a nice view should he be deserving of such reward – and can be used anywhere: on a bed or on the floor. This is also a nice option for longer service time.
- Using the couch or headboard to support yourself upwards over his face. Now for someone who is just starting out with queening I can understand the concern of smothering a loved one however, and I say this seriously but with a bit of a smile: practice with a balloon or a small yoga ball. Seriously this is just as much about you getting used to the feelings of sitting down comfortably on his face as it is about having it work out! It will boost your confidence too knowing exactly how it is you wish you lower yourself down on his face. You can for the first couple of times ensure his arms are not bound so that he could give you an indication with his free hands should something be too intense; so do not pressure yourself right away to go full face if you don’t want! The pleasure of doing it freehand or without aid will come soon enough; you will know when you give him pause because you will know what to look for.
- As a handy woman that loves power tools I always suggest making your own! There might be someone local you can work with and this is often so affordable you will ask ‘why didn’t I do this before’ and make more kink furniture! Making something to your height and specifications is something to be proud of! You can see how simple this design is but also are free to make it your own: use materials you like, more or less stuffing, and why not add some hardware: this design makes me want to add some nice O rings on the side of the head box to bind his hands too.
I hope this helped; and have fun.