Q: I was curious so I asked my girlfriend to put her finger in my butt and she sort of freaked out and asked if I was gay – am I?
A: now that I cleaned up the coffee that flew from my face, NO IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE GAY, but it does mean your girlfriend is a freaking moron.
Remember when I said your girlfriend was a moron, I didn’t mean it, she is at best uneducated about the male body and sexuality and probably projecting a misconception that a lot of people have: if a guy has anything to do with butt it’s gay.
Prostate massage benefits aside you were simply asking someone to try something with you and that is not a bad thing, shows a lot of trust on your part however once it is said you cannot take it back and it can impact your relationship. I really hope you are not feeling completely alienated by this and that she can get over her initial reaction. You now have to ask yourself why should not be able to talk about such things with someone whom you believe has same liberties. Couples who cannot talk about sex can learn to talk about it but it requires a lot of patience on both of your parts. When and how you ask someone to try things with you is also important, so it might be something you should consider bringing up again but not in the middle of a great blow job?
Then ask yourself how you can try this out yourself – yes having it be her finger is in itself a part of the fantasy but there are reasons we do it alone or buy a toy to help us out a little.
If you go this route, please start off with a smaller toy, something that is not going to disappear with a nice ridge like this and lots and lots and lots of lube! Lube is always the key to butt success regardless of gender. Oh and whatever you do, do not use one of her toys – it’s unsanitary and can lead to infection – what goes in the butt is for butt only!
Perfectly normal for you to be curious and or feel pleasure by having the prostate touched, it is a pleasurable center than can increase sexual sensations before and during ejaculation. You are not gay, wrong, or a freak for being curious or wanting this.
I personally enjoy men that will let me tickle their prostate but not all women/men will – so if she is totally against it, love and all its glory might not be worth blowing up over – pleasure yourself when you can! Sorry she freaked.